Literally every single post I’ve seen on this topic: gay bars are nice and historically important but they’re not accessible to everyone and it would be cool if we had other alternate spaces for lgbtqia+ people, esp ones who can’t be around alcohol.
You demons: OMG I CANT BELIEVE THESE HOMOPHOBIC CISHET ACES THINK GAY BARS ARE DENS OF SIN AND WANT TO CLOSE EVERY SINGLE ONE
It’s this weird way of thinking where they act like Teh Gayz can only have a certain amount of nice things and to get any new ones we have to give up old ones. No??? We can have cafes and bars. In the same city. The cafe can even be where people start Friday evening and then they go a few blocks down to the bar if they want to go to bars or clubs. IDK, maybe we can have a space where people can hear themselves talking and have coffee dates without worrying about straight homophobes overhearing and getting agressive, and also clubs for loud music and dancing. Just a thought.
Okay, this is such a great addition to this post because it illustrates something about how anti and aphobe discourse seem to have this common thread where they circle back around to being just plain homophobic, frequently from the angle of internalized homophobia and unquestioned assumptions.
The idea that the amount of resources going to LGBTQ+ interests should be limited and that we should have to compete for it.
The idea that queer relationships in fiction should be criticized harder than het relationships.
The idea that the expression of other people’s sexuality is automatically always threatening to people who don’t share the same preferences and needs…