a lot of queer people feel this thing you’re describing, this sense of being unmoored or aimless or overwhelmed with the prospect of living adult lives we — unlike our cis, straight peers — never imagined. Because our community struggles with higher rates of depression than the general population; because we haven’t historically had role models in books and TV shows and movies to show us the way; because political parties and religions have consistently scapegoated us and tried to take away our civil rights by distorting or erasing our stories; because we didn’t have a chance to test out our futures playing make-believe as kids or a chance to talk out our futures with our parents or pals or guidance counselors, for fear of seeming weird or because we didn’t even know queer adulthood could exist.
What you’re feeling is perfectly normal, is what I’m saying.
For all the scattered hubs of gayness and for all the straight world’s belief in the contagion of homosexuality, it is not a behaviour that requires a gay culture to spread. From the individual stories that eventually emerged, we know that throughout America, in every corner of the country and in every level of society and at every time in history, two men or two women would look at each other with silent understanding and, once again, homosexuality was invented.
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“It is not now or ever okay with disabled lesbians to be regarded as inferior. The truth is that we, the impossible disabled lesbians, are valuable; in fact, we are necessary for the strength, growth, and survival of all lesbian communities.”
– Edwina Franchild
“[Victim] was the first film in which a man said ‘I love you’ to another man. I wrote that scene in. I said, ‘There’s no point in half-measures. We either make a film about queers of we don’t’.”
“Gentlemen Prefer Gentlemen”
“This love is misunderstood and despised, persecuted, and misinterpreted as nothing else in the world! … They murder our love – and it lives! They strangle our cry – and the future resounds with it! They have murdered my books. But my books will live … Another judgement will be spoken by a brighter and better future. When, no one knows. But it is the only one I accept.”
– John Henry Mackay
“There’s a glorious, ecstatic feeling in being seen, in being out there, especially after so many years of hiding. This is me, come and take it.”
“I like homosexuality where the lovers are friends all their lives, and there are many lovers and many friends.”
“Oxford is the capital of Romance … in its own way as memorable as Athens and to me it was even more entrancing.”